For the past few years, I’ve made resolutions that end up failing (just like 92% of those who make them).
They involved getting a 6 pack, saving more money, being kinder to people.
You know, pretty typical, stock resolutions.
So this year, instead of setting resolutions, I’ve decided to set VALUES.
Most of us create goals or resolutions that are not backed up by a strong foundation and are either weak or superficial. They don’t match up with what we TRULY find to be important in life which is why they often fail.
For example, getting a 6 pack really did not fall into what I really valued in life. I just wanted to look good on the beach so people would look at me. This is very superficial and deep down I cared very little about what others thought of my body. It did not line up with my core values which is why I would often fail.
By setting your VALUES, are you creating a stable, strong foundation which all of your actions will stem from. Your core values help to set your intentions, guiding you to focus on what you truly find worthy.
When you create goals that are inline with your values, you will be more likely to achieve them because their meaning is grounded in your true beliefs.
So how do you find your values?
Follow this exercise:
1. Check out this blog post from Steve Pavlina, Living Your Values.
2. Choose 20-30 values from this list.
3. Narrow them down to your top 10.
4. Then for each value ask, “why is this value important to me”?
5. Rank them.
In the end, you will discover which things you really value in life. This will then guide you to create goals and resolutions that are inline with what you believe makes life important and worth living.
Setting your core values is the first step to achievement.
After your done with the exercise, I’d love to hear what your values are.
Here are mine!